Often, some smart women ask me: “Alexandra, what’s the
most important dating skill to have?”
I usually answer: “The basics are the most important –
confidence, conversation skills, fashion sense, body
language. They get the ball rolling.”
Then, they ask me again: “Sure, but what’s the MOST
If you had to choose just one skill to grow, then my
answer would be: Your conversation skills.
Why? Because all the other important skills – confidence,
body language, fashion sense, understanding male
psychology, etc. – can be developed faster and more easily
if you’re a good conversationalist.
Are you fantastically skilled with talking to men?
Or do you still make embarrassing remarks, boring spiels,
and awkward silences?
If you’re not a superstar conversationalist, then don’t
worry. Today, I’ll be sharing with you three conversation
skills that have worked EXTREMELY well for myself and my
readers for years!
Let’s jump right into it with the first skill:
Skill #1 – Making The Conversation Flow
Let’s say you’re at a cafe with a new guy, and you’re
talking about the latest Superman movie. When you run out
of things to say about the movie, what do you do?
Do you abruptly change the topic and talk about your
drink? Do you suffer through an awkward silence? Do you
excuse yourself to run to the bathroom and try to get your
Here’s a better idea – make the conversation flow.
Let’s say you run out of things to say about the movie.
Let the conversation flow into a related topic. For
instance, you can say:
“So what’s your favorite movie all-time?”
The thing about guys is that the more they get into a
conversation with you, the more they like you. So if you
could work on just one skill, work on this one first.
It can single-handedly make ANY conversation with ANY guy
more interesting, fun, and flirty!
Here’s the second skill:
Skill #2 – Practice With Your Guy Friends.
Ever noticed that talking with your guy friends is so much
easier than talking to a guy you secretly like?
That’s because you’re under pressure to make a good
impression. You want the guy to like you, too. And that
can tie your brain up in knots, making you say and do
things you later regret!
So to get rid of these jitters, I advise you practice
carrying conversations with your guy friends. (Preferably
the straight ones!)
Try it out. See which topics make them “tick.” Every guy
is different, but here are some topics most guys like
(1) Work and business
(2) Current events
(3) Plans for the future
In contrast, avoid these topics with men – they may cause
(3) “Girly” topics like makeup and TV dramas
Here’s a protip: If you want to take your “practicing” to
the next level, try saying “hi” to baristas, to security
guards, to the guy next in line, etc. It builds confidence
like nothing else.
Skill #3 – Have An “Awkward Silence Cure.”
No matter how good you are as a conversationalist, there
will always be times when both you and your date run out
of things to say. Cue awkward silence…
This is when it’s great to have an “awkward silence cure.”
Here’s my advice – always keep a few good, funny, or
interesting stories in reserve. That way, when you sense
an awkward silence coming, you can just say, “Oh, by the
way, I just remembered a funny story…”
The great thing about this skill is that the more fun and
fantastic your life is, you’ll have no shortage of
hilarious, exciting stories to tell.
So focus on having a fun life, and awkward silences will
never be a problem for you!
Best Of All? It’s Not Just For Dating
Simple, right? These three tips are enough to turn you
from an average conversationalist to a good one. And with
practice, you can turn from a good conversationalist to a
GREAT one – and guys will always have a good time with
And that’s not even the best part. Being a great
conversationalist isn’t just good for dating.
I’ve met women who actually use these “confident
conversationalist” skills to spice up their MARRIAGES. No
They just use the skills I teach them to keep their
marriages interesting, always bringing something new to
the table… and their husbands absolutely LOVE it.
Want to learn more about turning your simple words into
the building blocks of a happy, loving relationship? Learn
all the time-tested ways to win a man’s heart by reading
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And in case you’re wondering, no – my eBook above isn’t
just about conversation. It’s the complete package, with
my top-secret lessons in fashion sense, body language,
male psychology… and more.
How To Flirt With Men comes with three free eBooks,
all of which will help you become a smarter, sexier, more
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To the happiness you deserve,