The Secret To Making A Guy Do Whatever You Want

What's the fastest way to make a guy change his bad ways? HINT: It's easier than you think...

NOTE: When it comes to making a guy change, there are the WRONG words to say... there are the RIGHT words to say... and there are the ROMANTIC words to say. Click below to get my complete guide on the ROMANTIC way of making him do whatever you want:

Say It With Love

Want to learn the secret to making a guy listen to whatever you say, and do whatever you want? 

You might have noticed some of your girlfriends whose men are the "perfect picture" of an attentive boyfriend or husband. These guys are loyal, loving, and totally committed to the relationship... which makes your girlfriends VERY happy.

What's their secret?

Easy: These women simply know what makes guys "tick."

And when it comes to making a guy listen to whatever you say, these women know one VERY IMPORTANT secret about men: 

Guys Need To Be Emotionally-Invested

That's the key! When a guy is emotionally invested, he's "all in." He's tuned into his role as the relationship's protector and provider. His role wakes him up in the morning and keeps him up at night.


When a guy is emotionally invested, he's all about you!

You see this happen a lot in athletes, soldiers, entrepreneurs, artists, and other alpha male types. They're so emotionally invested in their sport, their country, their business, or their art that they do absolutely CRAZY things just to be great at their roles.

And the men who AREN'T emotionally invested in anything? They're lazy, weak, lukewarm, and generally have no direction in life. (I'm sure you've met THESE guys before!)

Likewise, for a guy to be a great boyfriend, a great husband, or a great father, he has to first be emotionally invested in his relationship. He has to be willing to do absolutely CRAZY things to be a great partner!

But What If He's Not Emotionally Invested?

Now, some of you might be thinking: "Alexandra, I have a problem. I don't think my man is emotionally invested in our relationship. In fact, he even seems ready to just leave me. What should I do?"

I passed this question to dating coach Devon Bradway, our "male voice of reason" here in the Unforgettable Woman community, and he gave a simple answer:

"Guys like me need jobs. We need good roles to fill. It's a primal need, like air, water, and food. If we don't have a good job, we go looking for one."

Does he have a "good job" in your relationship?

The mistake many women make is SPOILING him a little too much. The women do too much work in the relationship, and as a result, the men do too little.

And instead of appreciating your effort, he goes out looking for another job - or in this case, another relationship.

It's pretty crazy and unbelievable. But I'm sure you've seen it happen before.

Now, some women do the opposite by trying to make him do MORE work in the relationship... but this doesn't work, either.

So let me suggest a different approach...

Don't Agitate. Motivate! 

Guys are suckers for motivation. Let them know they feel loved, respected, admired, and appreciated, and they'll reward you with the love, attention, affection, conversation, provision, and protection you need.

Once you know how their minds work, everything else will be EFFORTLESS. You can love him completely and fearlessly, and he'll reward you with love, attention, respect, fun, affection, devotion and loyalty for the rest of your lives together.


Remember: He needs a "good job" in the relationship - emphasis on the word "good." Meaning it has to be fun and rewarding for him, too!

Here's the good news... it's actually VERY EASY to motivate a guy.

Most times, you don't even have to do anything. You just have to say the right words.

What are these "right words" that men find so motivating?

Be sure to write these down...

#1 - Words of Honor.

Playful jabs like, "Yes, dear," or "You're the boss," or "Aye-aye, Captain," don't just build endearment and fondness in the relationship - they also quietly reaffirm his natural position as the "head of the household."

And few things are more motivating to a man than that place of honor!

#2 - Words of Respect and Admiration.

One of my readers, "Sharon," shares this wonderful tip:

Write a list of the "20 things I admire about myboyfriend/husband."

Then, on his birthday, or on your anniversary, or onFather's Day, tell him: "You know what? I wrote down 20things I admire and respect about you."

Without a doubt, he'll tell you: "Can I see it? Can I seeit?"

Guys crave respect as much as women crave affection, so besure to give it readily!

#3 - Words of Appreciation.

"I really love how you work so hard for our relationship."

"I really love the way you say, 'I'll take care of it.' It's so macho."

"Thank you."

If he does something you like, be sure to show your honest appreciation for it. Guys are all about positive reinforcement!

And finally:

#4 - Words of Support.

Simply saying, "I got your back," or "Let me know how I can help," sends a clear message to him: You're a woman who's willing to face the world with him... and doesn't expect him to do all the work.

Try these words out yourself - slowly, he'll start listening to you and doing what you want!

Some of you might be thinking: "That's a little unbelievable, Alexandra. How can you make a guy change with just words?"

My answer: It's really up to you. Would you really rather try a thousand different things to make a guy change... or would you rather just say the right words to MOTIVATE him to change?

My answer: It's really up to you. Would you really rather try a thousand different things to make a guy change... or would you rather just say the right words to MOTIVATE him to change?

If you try a thousand different things to make him change, you'll just end up confusing him... and you'll just end up feeling frustrated. And confusion and frustration are "love poisons" you'd much rather NOT have in your relationship!

But on the other hand, if you just say the right words, over and over... THEN you'll see him change.

Instead of being a player, he'll be more attentive to you.

Instead of being selfish, he'll start putting your relationship first.

Instead of being a "lukewarm lover," he'll love you with a new, stronger, more intense FIRE.

In other words, he'll become totally, completely, emotionally invested in your relationship.

And what did it take? Just words.

It's the easiest skill you could ever learn in the game of love. ANYONE can learn it... especially if you read my complete guide on the right words to say, Romantic Words For Men. 

Learn how to:

  • Defuse an angry situation
  • Make him agree with your side of the argument
  • Turn him into a better, more attentive lover
  • Make a long-distance lover move closer to you
  • Make him stop flirting with other women
  • Make him feel interested about settling down with you
  • Make him spend hours with you, just talking and listening
  • And so much more!

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